Well this is a bit weird for me to do. Normaly I dont come to an forum and ask for adive on such a thing. But since I'm the type that likes any and all imput.

Over the past year. I have gotten to know this girl(my bests friends sister). At first she wanted to be fuck buddies with me, but I to put it blunty shot her down on that one. Basicly fearing that it would ruin the friend ship I had with her brother, seeing how it one of those thing's that not big on my to do list. That and I dont exactly have that many close friends, and well I wouldn't be able to talk to the guy and say "Hey man, last night I liked fucked yah sister on you're couch while she was in town to vist, and you and yah girlfriend where out" you's get the idea. Just didn't settle right in my head. So her and I settled on friends.

Anyways since about may, my feelings for her have grown a lot stronger then just friendship, though the chance to be fuck buddies is over since she currently "dating" someone as it where. I came to realize that for once to put it terms that may not be confusing, she has been able to take down the walls I had put up when it came to being serious with a girl, and basicly letting someone in.

I've tried telling her my feelings for her, but have failed badly. I first tried the "Hey wana have sex" route figuring she may still be up to that, with out basicly saying I love you, and the thought of me not being able to put my arms around you and so forth drives me crazy. But got shot down, when she told me "But I already have an boyfriend.". I was wondering if any adive at all could be had in telling her this.. I have the feeling that she shares the same feelings for, and may just be dating the guy she currently with to make me jealous(and it worked to some degree.) I figure this, because she currently doing an co-op in my town(She lives roughly 1 and a half hours outside of town) and is staying with a friend. Whenever I go to have coffee with her, she usally hesitates, quite badly sometimes when ever I recommend we go back to her place. Since basicly, monkey boy as her brother and I dubbed him will be there. That and she told me some things that need not be repeated here.

Heres the kicker though, I'm leaving this friday to move in with her brother which he lives just outside of Toronto.. Right now, i'm going more towards not saying anything at fucking all, since if she does. it hugely unfair for her since i do not plan on comming back to this city for at least an year.

i think your best bet is to stay away from trying to have sex with her since you
you already missed your chance. And its probably best that way. Let her stay with monkey boy, and you move on to other things. If you tried to start a relationship with her it would probably only lead to trouble.

For example:

No matter how close friends you are with her brother, he will probably feel betrayed by you if you sleep with his sister, especially if she is younger than him, so if you sleep with her, and he finds out, he will rage.

That was half the reason why I didn't do anything when I ment her last year, she 18/19 my buddy 21. Surprisingly he cool with the idea(a metwal friend of ours i've been talking to about this, said she talked to him about it,). And as for monkey boy, half the reason why I do believe she get axnois whenever I decide to like stop walking around with her when we go for coffee, and go back to the her aparment was cause the second thing outa my mouth to the guy first time I ment him"You hurt her, i'll beat the shit out of you. then you'll have to worry about her brothers.". I could of laughed my ass off, the second time I was over the guy like locked himself in a room and played on an computer.
It complicated, like I said she said some things to me that i repeated to another girl who my friend, she said i'm blind as a bat if you think she doesn't want you.

But I do think you're right, I had my chance to be with her an blew it.

Try not to think about her dude, just find someone else to distract you, especially if your moving in with her brother, if it was my little sister I'd kill you if I found out, maily cos you'd be moving away for a long time. Don't do anything dude, it's the best corse of action.

fuck... even da rafter has girl troubles... they are nothing but trouble

I already moved.. And I told her some things, we had an talk. And her brother knows me, so he cool with me. Just I can't say "Well man if she ever over I wana fuck her brains out if she wants to." instead I gotta say. "Well, me and yah sister are going to go cuddle, piss off."
But the best course of action to take right now, is to find someone to take my mind off of her. Once I find work in this shitty town, my god the smell.
Thx for the advice guys