This may seem like a strange thing to ask and you'll just go "oh my god womantalk" but i have genuinly noticed recently that more people are getting engaged, married and having kids younger. Whereas the generation before didnt have kids till after their career and the generation before were young when they married etc. is it just me or is there a pattern. Is our generation all gonna be married by the time we're 23 and our kids 50 before they have their first? So the question is, if you were going out with someone who you loved very much and they asked you to marry them and you were under say 20, what would you say? Also i know loads of people who are already parents under 20, not by accident but generally wanted kids, and lots more who want kids now if they could have them (This is including guys too). Im 16 and i'm engaged (not that i'd tell my parents!) and i know im a little young but im happy, or if i suddenly(!) got pregnant i'd be a bit annoyed cos i couldnt finish my A Levels or go to Med School but i think i would be genuinly be happy and i think my BF feels the same way even though he is 17. I was just wondering your opinions on it, or is it a more localised thing. Im from Nottingham England BTW
Creepy_Little_Goth_Girl

16 and 17 I would say that is a bit young, you don't really have enough life experience to be having to worry about one more person other than yourself let alone a child.

Yea, I think 16/17 is pretty young for that madness too....

i generally thought that too...its really wierd how everyone seems to want it so young.

<!--QuoteBegin-Creepy_Little_Goth_Girl+Dec 1 2003, 11:24 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Creepy_Little_Goth_Girl @ Dec 1 2003, 11:24 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> its really wierd how everyone seems to want it so young. [/quote]
thats mother nature fucking with us, since our overall health is better than if we lived in the wild, we are able to support younger parents. heard something like that somewhere.

whats this kids not born after there career??

uhh seeing as in the past woman's only real career was making babies thats garbage. Why dont you think most people's grandparents are closer to their parents age then you are to your parents?? because in the past children were pumped out at around 19/20.

in the past most people were married at a young age
you were considered old news if you werent married by 25.

now people are waiting until their 30s if not later to get married, and children are popping out of couples in the later 40s. this has become the average. mainly because of womans independence, and various other junk thats not important for this conversation.

as for your question, why get married so young? all it does is limit your options, why not get successful and then decide. i mean the only difference it would make would be the length of your anniversary.

thats what i wwhat i was saying.....from what i can see people used to get married young and 'pump' out babies and more recently its changed for men and women to have careers first, all im pointint out is that i think it may be going back the other way now and wondered if this followed a trend. im not saying that everyone should go get married and shit. as it says just a general wondering

Marriage is not the greatest of things, it has it ups and downs. But in the end if you don't end up regreating it, it's all good.. One thing you should do, is wait till yah early adult years 18-25 to decide if yah want kids. Usally by then you'll know what you're life will be like in 10 or five years and wether or not you can support kids.

I don't know why anyone would want to get married and have kids at such a young age. Live your life first, most people regret making life deciding decisions at age 16.

I don't beleive in regrets!!!!! Marrige isn't a life changing decision that can't be undone.....but I see what you mean I'd have to think for a while about a baby, like if I could afford to have one....hmmmmm.......*ponders*

Im not saying i want to. all im saying is that has neone else noticed this where they live? dont worry im not running off to get married i just wanted your opinion on everyone else

Too damn young. Wait until you have a job, so you're not broke as a joke when you're trying to support yourselfs and 3 kids. Many ppl are marrying younger, but they're also getting divorced quicker. It's just a giant waste of energy and money.

I live for the moment....anyway it's really your choice, if you think you're ready then I'd say go for it....just make sure you really wanna do it, as long as you're in love (I mean proper love, not kiddie love) then it doesn't matter what others say.

It's always your choice, but that doesn't make it the smart choice. Do as you will, though.

No worries...im not running of to get married. its just evryone else seems to be! its so wierd!

<!--QuoteBegin-Raven77+Dec 3 2003, 07:50 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Raven77 @ Dec 3 2003, 07:50 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'><!--QuoteEBegin--> It's always your choice, but that doesn't make it the smart choice. Do as you will, though. [/quote]
that's probibly the best advice I've heard

I'd have to agree w/Slacker52 when he says "thats nature fucking with you." And to answer your question... yes, if you really wanna see it that way, you are part of a fad. A fad that wants to jump on the bandwagon of a serious life (trust me, I'm on that road as we speak. W/9 months left till I have to be serious, I'm gettin all prepped up). So, will this fad ever dissappear? I belive so as Ziptal said many are getting married in their 30's and having kids sometimes almost up to their 40's. I've seen more in the 20's and into the 30's for kids more though. Nonetheless, I belive people are beginning to live longer, so the mind just subconciously thinks "If I'm gonna live to see 100, why not just wait around for awhile." Again, as Ziptal said, back in the 50's and whatnot, people married quick and had kids soon thereafter, then other things came into play to procrastinate those things.

Anyway, I'd wait around and just kick it for awhile. Have fun w/ur BF n' stuff, and when u truly feel that you can support a kid emotionally and physically (I.E. feed and cloth the kid), then go for it if you want. Like I say, if you can't feed em, don't breed em!

wow thats a great motto!

...also sensible advice........

everyone getting married, every other second. well i got to school at franciscan university a small super catholic school in ohio, in the US, and most women/ students are looking for their husbands, also men are looking for thier wives, its so common at my school to get married after you graduate, like 20 couples all no older than 25 who got married right out of college, its just so common hear, and i would bet like 10 already have a baby, one i know already has two. so i do see i trend were i live with young people getting married. people joke about it and say that they are majoring in mrs or mr degree instead of science or bio. so yes i see a trend of young love.

i think everyone should wait till theyve been with someone atleast 8 years because marriage is a big waist in some cases.cause if you get divorced your patner can take just about evrything from you which is not cool so think hard about getting married